How Can I Get Emancipated? Emergency?
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I am sixteen years old and I am currently living with a friend and her family.
I lived with my mom and the entire time, she was using drugs, there would be no food in the house, she would invite drug addicts over and they would rob and threaten her repeatedly; the house was a disgusting mess. The shower and bathroom were covered in black mold and everything was just dirty. She would repeatedly leave the country for months at a time, which would force me to couch-surf at friend’s and family’s houses, putting me in an awkward position, and when she was home she would leave and I would spend nights alone in a dirty house in a bad neighborhood where a bunch of people knew my mother lived. There were several incidents in which my clothes or money were stolen. I had to take care of myself and even her sometimes, and I hadn’t seen a doctor or dentist in years. I developed an addiction to self harm and began cutting my wrists from age 12 to 14, which she found out about and didn’t do anything to stop. (I no longer do this, however.) I was suicidal and all she did was make me feel guilty, saying she was trying to be a good mother. She’s had mental problems for years that she never got taken care of, her mindset is similar to that of a child and it’s very stressful for me to handle. She was also verbally abusive.
This continued for a year or more so I moved in with my sister right after I turned fifteen. Right before that time, I was diagnosed with dysthymia, which is a form of constant depression, and anxiety along with social phobia. Living with my sister was a little better, but she was very poor so we would constantly move in and out of her boyfriend’s house, and she had a three year old son; I felt like a burden but I had nowhere else to go. My sister constantly put me down, and throughout the year that I lived with her she would force me to babysit for up to 12 hours everyday for weeks, and in turn I grew very depressed due to other things happening in my life and I ended up on suicide watch, and still she made me watch him. I didn’t have a bed for over six months and then my nephew and I were crammed into a small apartment bedroom that we moved into; she made me throw away over half my things to fit into it and there was constant noise so I became sleep deprived and had trouble getting out of bed every morning. She would make me cancel my appointments with my psychologist that I was paying for with my own money to watch her kid so she could go hang out with her friends and her boyfriend could sleep.
Her and her boyfriend would fight at three in the morning and things would be thrown, and my nephew and I would sit in our room just listening. They argued constantly, and eventually I knew I could not handle it any longer so I left, and she basically disowned me along with the rest of my family.
I live in my friend’s attic right now, and I just don’t fit in with her family or have the kind of money to keep doing this. I try and buy my own food, soap, etc, plus pay rent, but everyone uses my things and I have to keep buying more. They constantly shove it in my face that I am “mooching” off of them, when I pay money to her mother monthly to live in a messy, stuffy attic. I can’t do this anymore.
I know how to take care of myself, I have had to do it for years. I am willing to do anything it takes, the only catch is that I don’t get good grades. I still plan on finishing school. I am sixteen and live in Oregon; PLEASE help me. How do I get started? Do grades matter?
Also, please note that I don’t feel sorry for myself; I just really need to get out of here. I get so depressed I don’t know what to do. I can’t handle it any longer. I would do very well on my own; I am an independent person.
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Answer by Adam Z.
You would have to be living apart from your parents and guardians and also be managing your own money. Either you or your parents can start the emancipation process. The person who starts the process must file (or have a lawyer file) a “Petition for Emancipation” form with the court. If you need a lawyer to start this process or to defend yourself and you cannot afford one, the juvenile court or probate court may appoint one for you at no charge.
There will be a meeting in front of a judge to talk about the emancipation petition. Only the judge can order the emancipation.
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