How Do I Tell My Daughter or Should I Tell Her?

Question by lidakamo: how do i tell my daughter or should i tell her?
about 12 years ago i packed my daughter up and left my then husband. we moved back to my home state. about a year after we left i found out he was hiv positive. we took a test (daughter & myself) and were negative. he’s not a good person. he’s been in drug rehab, jail, and now in and out of the hospital. he lives with his mother and treats her bad. i just don’t think he’s a good example for a father, and it’s my duty to protect her. she is now almost 14 years old, and always asks me about him, and why won’t i let her contact him. every time i’ve let him in her life he’s been nothing good. 1 year he came for x-mas, and left her on the porch by herself so he could sell packs of cigarettes to some construction workers across the street. my question is what should i do as far as telling her or not and how?
ok i get it i will tell her but, HOW?
no i’m not being selfish. he was the one that told me not to tell her. as for him being in jail she knew because when he wrote her they put a stamp on it stating it’s from a prisoner. i just feel it’s his place to tell her.

Best answer:

Answer by kissasiss_7
TELL HER !!!!! I KNOW IF I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION I WOULD WANNA KNOW !!!

Answer by just_me_1955
14 is old enough to know the truth belive me i know it isnt easy but that child needs to know